Psalm 34:18 "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
The holidays have been deemed as "the most wonderful time of the year." But let's be real. Holiday season can be an extremely tough time for millions of people across the world. So many of us find this time everything but...festive. Dealing with the loss of a loved one hits tremendously hard during the holidays. Whether it be your grandmother who cooked the best meals on Thanksgiving, or a close friend who passed recently, something about this time of the year sparks sadness for countless.
When my mother died in May of 2016, my world came crashing down. While she had been ill for some time, her passing was still unexpected. It wasn't until I moved away to Houston, TX alone a year later that grief hit me with full force. Here it was the holiday season and I was in a completely new city with no family and a few friends I met through work and church, missing my mama more than ever. The days leading up to Christmas, I cried constantly. For quite some time, grief engulfed me. Thankfully, I didn't spend Thanksgiving and Christmas alone, but they were definitely somber days.
If you are grieving a loss of a loved one this time of the year, please understand that you are NOT alone. This was something it took me a while to understand. While I was not near family, God had given me a family here in Texas of friends who truly loved me and would do anything to show me I wasn't alone. Surround yourself with friends and family who will grieve with you. Find loved ones who will talk about your loved one with you, cry with you or sit in silence with you, if that's what you want to do.
DON'T ISOLATE YOURSELF. It's easy to feel like no one understands. It is an instant reaction for numerous while grieving to be completely to oneself, knee deep in grief. In various cases, grief can be linked as the cause of depression. I urge you, talk to someone, anyone who will listen. There are people out there who will be there for you during this time if you let them.
Find ways to remember your loved one. Cry your heart out when you need to. But also, do what you can to remember the good times. For me, it's cooking her recipes. Take a piece of your loved one with you this holiday season. God is with you. And so is your loved one.
Father God, in the name of Jesus, I thank you for everyone reading this post. I pray for their healing as they cope with the loss of a loved one. God, be with them now. Allow them to know that they are never alone, for you are with us always. This holiday season, touch their hearts, homes, families. Lift their spirits, Father. Place others in their lives that will help them through this difficult time. Thank you in advance for bringing them through this. We love you. Amen.